Being the partner of a man with lust issues carries its own unique sense of shame. Women fear that the issue is a direct reflection on them, as a wife, a partner, a woman. Women recognize that they need support and understanding and yet, due to shame and confusion, it’s the last thing they want to tell anyone about. Where can they find support that won’t say there’s something wrong with them that our partners seek sexual gratification outside of our marriage?
One of the most important things we offer in the Whole Hearted Peer Support Group is a safe place to tell it like it is, no frills, no brave faces, just the whole and horrible truth of this experience. This is not a glamorous group. There are tears and anger and deep, deep sadness. And yet, within all of that, there is amazing beauty that has come from the level of authenticity. The wife of an addict is often starved of intimacy in the place that she needs and expects it most and so, arriving at a place where this exists between women walking the same path feels like an oasis and immediately begins the process of healing. Hearing someone else say “I felt that too”, “that’s normal” and “I understand” are some of the most powerful experiences felt by women who join us.
Whole Hearted Peer Support Group is a secret support group which exists on Facebook. Because it is a secret group, it cannot be found by a search. The only people who would ever know you are a member are the other group members and nobody outside of the group could ever see what you post or comment on it. The way that people find the group on Facebook is through the page ‘Wives and Partners of Porn Addicts UK’ where there are instructions on how to be invited to join. All new members are checked before being added and the safety and security of the group is our top priority.
If you would like to be added to the group please click the button and send us a message.